I gave this body so much judgment for being squishy, and now I love that about it so much, enough that I’ll post it on the internet for everyone to see.
What you believe about how you look isn’t the ultimate truth. It’s YOUR truth because it’s what you believe. But what if you could shift that belief into one that made you feel better?
It still won’t be the “ultimate truth”, because there is no ultimate truth. The only truth is what we believe to be true. We design our entire lives based off of what we believe.
So when your truth is — “my body will be worthy of love when it’s toned and smaller,” then you won’t make room to love it as it is right now.
Your love will be conditional.
Unconditional love comes from the point of view of — “I will love my body as it is right now, not in spite of its imperfections, but because of all of the things that make it uniquely...
You are here on this earth to forge your own path.
You are a giver, I know that about you. You are a coach or a mother or a lover or all of the above, and so much of your purpose is tied into creating beautiful lives for others.
You want to give your clients, your children, your friends and family experiences that you wish you’d had, and know they’ll love.
That’s beautiful. You’re here to do that, and you are doing it.
But what's more important is creating an experience for YOURSELF.
An experience that YOU want, NOW.
Not just an experience you wish you’d had, and gifting it to someone else.
An experience you wish you had now, and gifting it to yourself.
What do you want right now?
I know what I want right now.
I want energy.
Whole Foods entering my body.
Healthy energy being expelled.
I want joy, money, rest and play to be regular facets of my days.
I want selling to be easy.
I want my business to be about connection and...
We’re over half way through 2021. Whewwww. Last year I truly didn’t know how we would get here, or what would happen in the in-between.
“We’re living in unprecedented times”. I know you’ve heard this a million times by now.
Over the last year and a half we’ve had Business coaches coming out of the woodwork telling you that *NOW* is the time to build an online business. Do I believe this is true?
For some people, absolutely.
I have an online business. It's allowed me to be more successful even in "regular" times than I ever had been with a job that had me working on a schedule outside of the house. More fulfilled in both in my soul and my bank account.
But I don't believe that this is the answer for everyone.
I don't believe that everyone is meant to be a business owner, or that everyone even desires to be a business owner. What I do believe the majority of people desire is money and time freedom, which is something we see...
I want to share something that I wrote in the bathtub the other night.
While I was soaking in lavender Epsom salts somewhere in southern California.
Something that honestly, 5 years ago...I wouldn't have even let myself admit that I wanted.
People would talk about moving, and I'd shake it off without even letting myself consider.
"No, my family is here. I love my friends. Life is good."
And you know...my family is at home. And lots of my really good friends are too.
And I love them. And I talk to them every day lol.
I wasn't letting myself imagine what it might be like to move to California because I was afraid it wasn't possible for me.
And if I wanted it, and it didn't happen...I'd be heartbroken.
But if I wasn't interested...it was guaranteed not to happen. And there'd be no surprises.
I'm grateful that I got over my ego one step at a time.
Here, I want to share with you what I wrote now:
I’m writing to you now from a bathtub in San Diego, whereas 5 years ago...I was...
Who I am now is not who I have always been. I’ve been you. Struggling with my body, in debt, feeling unlovable, unsure of every business move made.
I want you to envision this:
I’ve just graduated college and am fresh out of a toxic 4 year relationship/engagement (new beginnings overload).
I hate my body, am over $10,000 deep in credit card debt, moving back into my childhood bedroom, feeling allllll of the shame/guilt/frustration/embarrassment that comes along with all of the above.
Oooooffff. Just thinking back to that time makes me want to give 2013-Lily the biggest hug.
I know that right now you’re wondering -- how do you go from being in that position to running a 6-figure coaching and healing company?
And that’s what I’m here to tell you. Let me fill you in on the details. Leading up to this point, I was overly-reliant on acceptance and love from other people to define my self-worth.
If people liked me, I...
This is why your TikTok views suck: you're not getting to the freaking point. And I have my top 4 tips to help you fix that.
See what I did there? How this blog post started, and you IMMEDIATELY know what I'm going to teach you?
Now you know not to move on to the millions of other options you have on the Internet right now. Because you're interested in what I have to say here.
TikTok is THE best place for business owners to grow an audience and community right now, and so many people are giving up before they even get started because they're frustrated with a lack of results.
"It's supposed to be easy! It is for everyone else!"
And it is easy. Or at least, it's simple.
But the culture of TikTok is quick moving. 15-60 second videos, and viewers have the ability to scroll away in half a second to the next of an infinite number of videos if they don't care about what you're saying immediately.
As a TikTok viewer myself, I'd say you have MAYBE a second and a half to pull me in...
How do you eat intuitively? one of the most popular questions I get asked on my what I ate in a day in my plus size body TikTok videos (@lilynicole.co)
Here’s where the confusion comes in: most people try to eat intuitively by listening to their minds when what is really required is listening to your body.
And it’s easier said than done, for sure. There are still so many times that I finish a meal and think—my body didn’t really want or need that. And the MOST IMPORTANT part of leaving diets behind and stepping into trusting your intuition is firmly deciding to embrace self-forgiveness. For all the ways you’ve treated your body up until this moment, and all of the ups and downs that will continue to happen as you learn to trust your body.
It’s not an overnight process, and it’s not supposed to be. Usually, when someone steps out of counting calories and tracking all of their meals for weight loss, their brain leads them towards foods...
In 2015, I was living in my parents' basement.
I had no windows, cold, concrete walls, and while I wasn't in school teaching, I was building an online coaching business from my bed (there was no room for a desk).
I was also in a constant battle with my body (and always "losing"), worrying that my boyfriend at the time would leave me (he did), and stressed to the max about money, friendships, and my rude, out-of-touch boss.
I'm sitting here in 2021 writing you this email from my porch in San Diego.
I live in a one bedroom apartment with big windows and natural sunlight, a porch that connects to both my bedroom and living room and opens up to a beautiful view of palm trees and blue sky.
The sun is beating down on my face (it's about 75 and perfect today), I'm listening to the wind and the seagulls, and I'm sending so much love to that girl in the basement who wanted more for her life and decided that she would have it, even without any idea "how".
Here's what I did: I...
I miscarried a pregnancy I didn’t plan for. And I need to talk about it.
I recently learned from a man who looks at the structure of your face and can tell your personality type that I am a type that processes through sharing.
I was advised to keep close friends around who listen to me, and I laughed. I’ve been sharing my life with thousands of people on the internet since I was 19.
So when I took that positive pregnancy test while visiting my parents in New Jersey on September 29, I wanted nothing more than to tell the world. To process through writing and sharing. But based on everything I’d heard about the first few weeks of pregnancy, I decided to refrain from posting.
And here I am, 15 days later on October 14, in a hospital bed, writing out the announcement of a surprise, unplanned pregnancy at the same time as I announce this surprise, unplanned loss of it.
I don’t know when I’ll share this. Not yet. Maybe...